We often get asked the same questions on sensitive issues associated with dementia. We have published some of them here with answers and real solutions that can help.

 

My wife has Alzheimer's Disease. She is accusing me of stealing her things – of course I am not but I am unable to convince her of this.
The first thing to remember is not to take these accusations too seriously and try not to contradict (easier said than done I know) as you may end up having an argument which will make you both more upset. Stay calm and try to reassure her that you know where the missing item is, try to look for secret hiding places that she may have while you are tidying or cleaning the house. A good tip is always to check rubbish bins before you empty them! If these items are keys or glasses it may be a good idea to have spare ones. She may be hiding them herself because she is feeling insecure and is trying to keep special things safe but then forgets where that safe place is.

 

My Mum cries everyday and I don't know how to deal with it or try to help her. It is very distressing and it upsets us to see her so upset.
Firstly, check out that there is no physical reason for her distress. If your Mum is upset at the end of the day she could be tired and unable to express herself in any other way. If she is tired she is likely to be more confused and bewildered – so try to keep the situation around her calm and quiet. Has she been alone for some of the day? - She may be so glad to have company and just want someone to sit with her and hold her hand for reassurance. She may be frightened – particularly younger people with dementia have a certain amount of insight into what is happening to them and this is obviously upsetting for them, again reassurance and spending time with her to show you are there to help her through this.

 

I am 54 years old and I live alone. I have just been diagnosed with dementia. I have been given the name and telephone number of the Social Worker who came out to visit me and when she left told me to contact her when I need any services, but I am really worried that I will need help after 5pm in the evening or at the weekend when she won't be there.
You do not say whether you have friends or other family you could call on. Or are there any local support groups who offer a befriending/outreach service that you could find out about? If you contact the local branch of the Alzheimer's Society they should be able to give you this information. Your Social Worker should also have given you the emergency out of hours contact number for Social Services, if she hasn't phone her and ask her for it.